Communication is Key...

I know you've heard it over and over and over again, but let me repeat it - communication is key in marriage.  Before my husband and I exchanged vows, we downloaded some pre-marital questions in order to spur conversation and we learned tremendously more about each other.  We both understood and understand how important it is to say how you feel and to not allow negative feelings linger.  You say it in the moment, tactfully, to keep offense from setting in.  One thing that we learned in pre-marital counseling is that offense is an enemy of marriage.  If I don't tell you that what you said hurt my feelings, then how are you supposed to know?  We assume that people think how we think, so they should know that they hurt us, but this is simply not the case.  We are adults and should be able to communicate as such.  

Practice over communicating with your spouse.  Talk about work, talk about your in-laws, talk about the weather, talk about your hobbies - just find things to talk about.  Talk about difficult, touchy subjects too.  Leave nothing off the table.  The more comfortable you'll begin to grow with always talking to each other.  

Something that my husband and I do is read together.  From there we will discuss what we read and gather each other's viewpoint.  This tends to lead into other conversations and it helps you develop a sense of your spouse's thought processes.  

Communicate, communicate, communicate.