I think many times people are frustrated in marriage because they go into it for the wrong reasons. You can't be selfish and have a successful marriage. Marriage is a ministry. "Ministry" is from the Greek word diakoneo, meaning "to serve." You are to serve your spouse and they in turn serve you. Your goal is to aide them in the fulfillment of their life's purpose and they are to do the same for you. If I am overly concerned with serving my spouse, helping them and making them happy and they are doing the same in return - when do I have time to be selfish?
Forget 50/50! That's not realistic. Yes - there will be some days when one person gives more than the other, but so goes life. If I love that person as much as I say I do, then I'm not keeping score.
Many people go into marriage for the two income household or because of sex, but those are just a byproduct of marriage - not the main purpose of it.
Marriage = selflessness!
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